Chapter 1343 (1/2)
It is a very formal and grand thing to recognize ganqin in Haizhou.
Only between friends with excellent relationship, or when they meet the younger generation who they like very much, can they recognize the next relationship, and after the recognition of the relationship, it will basically last for a lifetime.
When the post-80s and post-90s grew up, they dealt with this kind of relationship more casually. Sometimes, before a child was born, they had found a bunch of parents. However, in Haizhou in the last century, there was rarely a child with several parents, or an adult with several sons or daughters. Generally speaking, a child only There is a godfather and a godmother. An elder has only one son or daughter at most. The older generation attaches great importance to this relationship. To some extent, it is much more important than the Western Godfather.
Haizhou people attach great importance to commitment, not only to the formal marriage, but also to the brotherhood among friends. They do not worship at will. They should not only have the right feelings, but also pay attention to commitment and rules. If their parents and grandparents die, they should wear filial piety according to the rules, but also to filial piety. Unlike children in their thirties and fourths years later There are dozens of hundreds of brothers, but they worship at will and get along with each other at will. If they keep in touch ten years later, one or two will be good.
When Li Mu and Li Ziwei went home together, they called their mother. Mom and dad didn't expect Li Mu to go home ahead of time, so they hurriedly started to arrange dinner and answered Li Mu's phone. Li Ma suddenly got nervous and asked Li PA, ”what do you say if Ziwei isn't happy?”
Li Pa said, ”I don't think so.”
Li Ma said, ”I don't know, but I don't know the bottom of my heart. We've never known girls before, and we don't know what the rules are in Ziwei's hometown.”
Li Pa said with a smile, ”as long as the girl agrees, we will follow the rules of the other side of the family. Besides, the girl may not dare to directly agree. It must be discussed with her parents.”
Li Ma nodded and said, ”Ziwei's parents are still very good people. At first glance, they are standard intellectuals. It seems that they are all teachers, right?”
”Ziwei's mother is a teacher, and she has retired. Her father is an official of their local education bureau. But in the early years, it was the people's teacher. Later, she was transferred to the Education Committee. When I saw Ziwei last time, her father said that he was going to leave, too.”
During the Spring Festival, as Li Mu's personal assistant, Li Ziwei has been following Li Mu all the time. In order to make her reunite with her family, Li Mu specially invited her parents to Haizhou for the Spring Festival. Li PA, Li Ma and Li Ziwei's parents had several days of contact. They had a good impression on them, especially on Li Ziwei.
Li Ziwei was born into an intellectual family. Her parents were the last batch of college students who had been admitted to university by their real talents before the cultural revolution. After graduation, both of them devoted themselves to the education industry. They were busy in the field of education for half their lives. Both of them were very good in character, temperament, knowledge and conversation.
Li Ma said with a smile, ”if Ziwei's parents agree, six of our families will have dinner together sometime, and we will have a girl later.”
”It's just Li, just like my daughter...”
Li Ma nodded, ”yes, they are all from your old Li family.”
Li PA nodded and smiled, and said, ”before you have a son, you always want a daughter in your dreams. If you are a daughter, I'm afraid you won't have the achievement of our son today!”
Li Ma shook her head and said, ”if Xiaomu is really a girl, I can't bear her hard work. When she graduated from college, she would go home to be a civil servant, have a stable job, and don't marry far away, so she can accompany us more.”
After that, Li Ma said: ”you see now, your son hasn't graduated from university and runs around the world all day long. I'm afraid that I can't see him for several times in a year. No matter how great the achievements are, it's hard for the three of us to get together?”? Achievements are made for outsiders. The happiest day for a family is to keep one's face. ”
”You are right.” Li PA nodded and sighed, ”in the future, I have to persuade my son to have more children!”
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Li Mu didn't tell Li Ziwei about her mother's willingness to recognize her as a daughter, but she thought all the way in her heart.
In his last life, Li Mu often listened to his mother's exclamation. He envied others who had daughters, especially those who kept them by his side. Even when he became a family, he could meet each other every day. After he had children, his parents could help to take them with every day, and the life of the old couple was full.
Unlike her, her son can go back three or two times a year when he is away from home all year round, and every time, he only has a few days to come and go in a hurry. Before he can be a mother, his son will go again.